“the ice cream AND CHERRY”

friendly gin and tonic

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fancy gin and tonic recipe

Today I wanted to cry.

This is not a monumental thing by any means. My roommate once caught me crying at a burger commercial. Something about a mama burger, a papa burger, and … well you know what, it’s not important but dang that commercial tugged at my sensitive heart strings and wouldn’t let go.

So I cry. I do. My tears are not limited to any boundaries. You know, like how some people say, “Oh I’m not a crier. EXCEPT when it’s about (insert sociably acceptable thing to cry about.) And people around murmur their agreement, “Oh yeah, me too, ONLY that.” Well I cry at burger commercials. And old couples walking hand in hand. And birds who fly into windows. And every single episode of Parenthood. The interesting thing is that a lot of what makes me cry also makes me laugh. (Am I starting to sound like an emotional wreck at this point? HA HA HA?)

cucumber raspberry gin and tonic recipe

But that’s the thing about the human range of emotion. We can be laughing one moment and bawling like Diane Keaton in Something’s Gotta Give the next. (Or like a character in any Nancy Meyers movie for that matter.)

So it comes as no surprise to me that after an unexpected Skype call from three of my girl friends back in Canada, I would want to cry. And laugh.

They asked me what I miss from home, jokingly adding, “besides us!” Honestly? Next to how much I miss those girls, how important are Sour Patch Kids, or Original Cheerios, or dark beer? (And we’re not talking just any dark; IRISH dark.) There’s plenty I miss! But what could you possibly miss more than cherished friends? And there is something oddly comforting about knowing that the one thing you cannot get in a place, is the one thing that cannot be taken away. It doesn’t expire, or get used up, leaving you with a depressing pile of sour powdered sugar at the bottom of the bag. The relationships we build are ours for as long as we appreciate them. And trust me, I appreciate these ladies.

In fact, I mentioned them before. Did you know that? It was a while ago. Back before I received comments or any kind of affirmation through readership. I was just saying stuff and sending it off into a vast void. I guess I still am. But it’s nifty some of you notice.

burgundy lion gin and tonic recipe

Looking back at that old post, I got to thinking about the very first post I ever wrote. And you know something funny? It was exactly one year ago today. And the reason this blog came into existence had to do with being in a new place, experiencing countless new things, and not being able to share it with those girls. Not being able to tell my stories. (They are vastly less interesting in broken Spanish, you see.)

So I am here, living my life, loving my friends and telling my stories. I’m a bit of a rebel by food blogging terms. My posts are quite randomly published and rarely in sync with what’s popular at that given moment. But they are sincere, and truly personal.

So what have I got for you this time? A drink recipe inspired by a pub that my friends know well, The Burgundy Lion. I went there once with one of those girls and we ordered a cocktail. If memory serves, it was called Leo. A gin and tonic with cucumber and raspberries; refreshing and delicious. So this is what I do when I’m missing my friends: I cry, I hug my husband, and I make or mix something that reminds me of them.

fun spins on classic gin and tonic recipes

friendly gin and tonic recipe

inspired by The Burgundy Lion

chunk of cucumber (to taste), peeled, seeded and pulsed in a food processor (if you find the cucumber isn’t breaking up nicely, just add a bit of water to loosen it up)
1/4 cup raspberries, muddled
2 shots of your favorite gin (I enjoy Bombay Sapphire)
juice of half a lime
tonic water

In a glass, combine ice, cucumber, raspberries, gin, and lime juice. Top with tonic water and garnish with cucumber.

serves one

the burgundy lion leo gin and tonic

At the end of our chat, I sent a message to the girls telling them how much I love them. The reply? “You were the ice cream AND CHERRY on top of our day.” … TEARS. (ha ha ha)

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46 Responses to “the ice cream AND CHERRY”

  1. That is one of the most refreshing treats in the history of 😀
    And I am definitely a crier laugher the lot!

    Choc Chip Uru

  2. I cried at this at this post. Does that make me an emotional mess (possibly). haha? Us rebels of the food blogging world (aka: people who cringe at the thought of purging out a piss poor daily recipe just to keep readers) are the ones who have this right. We are doing this to share ourselves with “ourselves” and those who matter to us. The readers, friends, and followers who come from it are a major bonus. I’m with you and your damn good cocktail. Cheers to dear friends!

  3. What a touching post! I am the same way with the waterworks. I say, it’s totally acceptable!
    I love how you created a favorite drink from a wonderful memory. It sounds delicious and it LOOKS lovely. Thanks for sharing it with us!

  4. That is so sweet. Those girls are very lucky to have as great a friend as you!

  5. Brittany says:

    Looveee this!! Friends like this are HARD to come by, hold onto them tight! I have cried a lot the past week, for different reasons..but I have embraced the tears each time and let them flow. I have been so emotional I will even cry at something someone else might think is silly. HA! Ohh I love being hormonal! 😉

    • kale says:

      very true. when i was younger i thought friends grew on trees, but i was confusing friends with acquaintances. harder to come by, but much much more rewarding!

  6. Liz says:

    What a beautiful cocktail! I’m going to serve this once it gets hot here again 🙂 I better pin it or I’ll forget after the long winter 🙂

    PS. Happy birthday to your blog! I still find it amazing that people from all over the world read what I write. You have a lovely, unique voice…I love stopping by.

  7. Cheers to good friends! And I’m a crier, if something moves you to cry that’s part of being human and just means you feel deeply which has always been a good thing in my mind.

  8. cquek says:

    You truly do take amazing photos and I think you capture the real essence of it all.

  9. Hehe a crier here too! I miss watching Oprah, that was a good show for inspiring stuff 😀

  10. Haha I have found that I cry more as an adult than I did a kid. There are times when you just need to have a good cry! And a hard drink 😛

  11. Happy 1st anniversary to blogging. Just like you, I laugh and next moment tears rolling down. I tend to also cry when waiting love and sentimental movies. I suppose its human to cry and laugh and its normal too. That shows we have emotions and we show it.

    Lovely drink and this will be a great one for me during weekends. I enjoy having a drink during weekends, get me into a relaxation mood.

  12. I always enjoy reading your foodie stories and this one is no exception … If you ever want to share on Food Stories, we’d love to have you 😉

  13. What a lovely drink!! Very refreshing.

    I definitely am a crier when it comes to movies. I am all teary eyed at the drop of a hat, though I must admit I do have strong disposition when it comes to dealing with emergencies, tears and all.

  14. Kim Bee says:

    I love everything about this post. I think having really fabulous friends is so important in life. I’ve been through so much in my life and without my core group of friends I’d have never gotten through it all. They mean the world to me. I rarely cry though. It’s an odd thing. I would say I never did but I embraced a good cry more after my dad got sick and passed. Sometimes you just have to lose it in order to move forward. I love the drink. I love your attitude. And I say keep being a food blogging rebel. It makes your site unique and interesting. I like reading the ones where they tell stories. The ones who just post recipes tend to bore me. And btw I just gave my daughter crap for keeping sours in her room. She hordes big bags of them. I finally caved and gave her mason jars to put them in. If she’s going to keep them in there then at least keep them fresh. Lol!

    • kale says:

      well i love everything about your comment, how about that? 🙂 a lot of my close friends are not criers, either. or at least, not publicly. for some it’s a very vulnerable feeling and they prefer to keep that to themselves. for one of my best friends though we joke that her tear ducts are blocked or just not there, cause she really never sheds a tear! she’s like an emotional warrior.
      but losing someone you love… i agree, the tears are a vital part of an unwanted process.
      i love your sours compromise! too funny!

  15. Nothing in life is as good as family and old friends. We are lucky when we stay in touch as you have. My husband is a big gin and tonic fan. I’ll make this for him tonight for a Sunday treat!

  16. So, um…I was wondering…are we sistahs from another mistah? Because I cry at everything. More than anybody I know. For example: it was “senior night” at the last Notre Dame home game last night. Seniors came out and hugged their parents. Cried. It’s pretty much a daily occurence. Did you watch ER when it was on tv? Swear, cried every single episode. Beautiful post…and lovely cocktail. I could cry it’s so lovely ;P

    • kale says:

      haha, thanks heather! and i think we must be, cause i so did. mark greene`s death was pretty much an epic cry session in my tear history.

  17. This looks so refreshingly delicious! And I’m a crier too. Most movies, commercials, birthdays, cards, and on and on 🙂

  18. Such a great post! I cracked up when you said you cried at a burger commercial – sounds like something I would do. And this drinky drink looks perfect!

    Happy I found your blog!

  19. the raspberries make this classic drink look SO fancy 🙂

  20. Sissi says:

    I love this cucumber and raspberry version of gin and tonic! I will bookmark it and hopefully remember to prepare next summer.
    Thank you for visiting my blog!

  21. Christine says:

    Happy bloganniversary! This is a wonderful reflective post, and I always feel your sincerity in your blog. I imagine you as a very kind and fun-loving person. Your friends are lucky. This cocktail looks yummy!

  22. cakewhiz says:

    it’s times like this when i see gorgeous drinks that i wish i could drink. but *sighs*… for now, i will just admire yours and drink through my imagination…hahah

  23. Well you know that I’m not just crying right now. I am, in fact bawling. You may hear the faint blubbering and sniffles if you focus really hard. I love you. I want you to know. I miss you just as much as you miss me. Well, we could argue that out for sure. But you know what? We speak of you weekly and sometimes daily. We want you to never feel forgotten and never feel unloved by those of us who are miles away. YOU dear kales are everything to us. Irreplaceable. Unforgettable. So Loveable. We miss you. And we love you.

    • kale says:

      what are you doing to me?? was i not clear about the torrent of my tears that come raging forth at the slightest provocation??! (love you too!) 🙂

  24. Parsley Sage says:

    Isn’t skype a wonderful thing? My closest friends live in England, Australia and Pennsylvania…and I get to talk to them whenever I want so it makes the distance thing a bit easier to deal with 🙂 Great story and an equally great cocktail, darling! Really digging the cucumber!

  25. Eftychia says:

    You sound like a human!! Thank God you are a human :-)!! Enjoy your nature and be proud for that!

  26. Kristina says:

    Happy 1 year!! This was such a pretty post, I’m sorry you’re missing your friends, skype is such a great way to keep in touch. My best friend moved to NYC (I’m in Chicago) and its so much more fun talking face to face 🙂 And love the cocktail! I don’t usually mix cocktails at home but I’ve been really wanting to play around with them lately, especially for the holidays!

  27. Is it too early for one of these? YOOM. Love your candor. Brill blog. Imen xx

  28. Michelle says:

    I cry during commercials too! The drink looks delicious! Thank you for your nice comments on my wedding post!

  29. Shirley says:

    Yes, I cry when I’m happy, sad, overwhelmed and glad. That is why I am a Parenthood addict. How can I get the latest episodes here in Ecuador?? I’ve tried everything. Must see TV. Hope to see you soon

  30. I totally get what you are saying. The toughest part about living away from home is separating from families and friends. I am happy to hear you have such close relationships with your 3 friends. That is something worth cheering about. 🙂
    By the way, your gin and tonic is stunning. My husband like regular gin and tonic, but I think your version will fit me much better. Can’t wait to try! Thanks.

  31. Heide M. says:

    Sounds refreshing.

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